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For the 18 months prior our to engagement the only topic of conversation in many quarters was.....our engagement. I know everybody meant well but it seemed like everywhere I went the only thing I was asked was.....
- When are you proposing?
- Where are you proposing?
- How are you proposing?
- Have you bought the ring yet?
- Does Debbie know?
It wasn't just limited to house visits. I was getting it by email, by text message, by phone call. I was even getting it third hand from virtual strangers. By the time I'd proposed I was sick to the back teeth of engagements and weddings. A few people managed to work it out and realised I'd had enough of it and did the sensible thing.
I know everybody means well, I know.
It seems that we'd not been off the ferry for more than 5 minutes when it started again, this time about the wedding. I was hoping getting engaged would quell the interest in our marital plans but it only provided more fuel for the fire.
It's now 7 months after we got engaged and well over 2 years after the lynch mob started their marriage onslaught and to be quite honest I've had enough of it.
You can try it yourself for free. Ask all your friends and family to make their only topic of conversation something you don't particularly want or need to talk about and then ask them to ram it down your throat continually for 2 years and then let me know how you feel afterwards.
All the discussion that needs making has been made. I discussed the wedding a week before the engagement with Debbie's mum and dad and they were of exactly the same opinion as me, there's no rush. Three weeks ago I sat down with Debbie's dad at a family wedding reception and talked about the wedding again. Ian told me he would be in a position to know how much he can contribute financially towards the wedding after Christmas this year. We resolved to discuss it again in January 2009.
Until we know how much we have to spend on the wedding there is nothing to discuss.
So I say with a firm press on my keyboard that that's the last i want to hear about it until after I've spoken to the father of the bride again next January. There is nothing to discuss, not a damn thing.
I'll add a few further topical comments too...
I've said for a long time that I'd like to get married before I'm 40. I'm 40 in 18 months time and that's a long time ahead.
I'm not getting married in a church as you wouldn't see me dead (My funeral won't be in one either) in a place associated with brainwashing and child abuse. This means we'll be getting married in a commercial venue or abroad and you can bet your life they'll make room for us when we show them the colour of our money so finding a vacancy at a venue won't be an issue.
I'm picking the bridesmaids in consultation with my mates! We will be holding auditions at some point next year!! Think X-Factor and Britain's Got Tallent all rolled into one with me as Simon Cowell, Mike as Piers Morgan, Rich as Lois Walsh, Steve as Ant and Mark as Dec.
Thank you for being so understanding on this matter. My sense of humour is now restored.
Labels: Debbie, Family
Us Two
I'd had a few!
She'd had a few!
